Getting rid of the opinions of others

Detuning from external control.

If the wind blows in your face outside, it is better to stay at home, but if you need to go, let this wind not stop you.

If public opinion considers it right to live “like this” and condemns the behavior of others, it is better to live as public opinion considers, but if you need to do something your time, let public opinion not stop you.

Your task is to learn to relate to the opinions of others as to the weather: to take into account and keep in mind, but no more, remaining free to choose your own behavior.

How will they look at you if you start sucking a baby's dummy on the street? “Fool!” (Softer - “Strange”).

What will they think about you if you start (just like that) loudly reading good poems at the bus stop? "Crazy!"

That's right, but these “name-calling” were scary to you in childhood.

What do you care about them now? In order to overcome childhood dependence on the opinions of others, think up for yourself and learn to do non-standard actions!

There are many who want to manage your life, but if someone’s control doesn’t suit you, you can detach yourself from it. For this, when they ask you, when they ask you, when they expect or demand from you ...

1. Do not explain and do not make excuses.

You have no obligation for everyone to understand and consider you good. 2. Do not seek justification for your decisions if you do not have them.

You can do what you decide, and without justification.

Moreover, you do not have to be logical for someone.

Each has its own logic, in addition, you simply have the right to do what you want. 3. Do not hang on someone else's problems.

You can help if you want, but you may have other plans. 4. Do not hold on to your decision just because you said it. If you want, allow yourself to change your mind and make a decision that suits you best. 5. You do not have to guess what you were not told directly.

If they need your help, let them say which one, and you might do it. 6. You do not have to guess about your answers that will suit someone.

If they need a definite answer, let them say which one, and you may give it to them. 7. You do not have to empathize with the worrying interlocutor.

He wants to worry so, why should you connect to his choice? You do not have to feed him joys.

You do not have to keep him sad.

You can do it when you find it necessary yourself. 8. You do not have to develop and improve in general, especially in that particular direction that is being imposed on you.

You have the right to lay the route of your life yourself. 9. You do not have to be good for someone and seek someone's approval.

I don’t have to respond to someone’s disapproval simply because someone wants it. You have the right to take the wheel of your life into your own hands.